I've been thinking a little about relationship as of late, not so much in way of being in one, but all the parts leading up to it. And I've become a little frustrated with some of the occurrences that have happened with the last few, I guess you call it, "dates." It's something that I've always thought was weird and just really childish in a sense and is really just uncalled for in my opinion. I may be wrong about this, but this is just how I feel about the whole thing.
Situation 1: Girl "A" I had met about 16, 17, 18 months ago. Back in September of 2010. She was a conservative, but open, girl that was a good listener and really was quite interesting to me. We had gone out on a couple of occasions with the first time meeting up for an early dinner and then a hike at a local trail that was just beautiful. That first real time that had with her was good, and really quite ideal for how I would like dates to be like. We continued to talk through texts and meeting up to go out and do things on a few more occasions, and this continued for about a month and a half. There towards the end, I was under the suspicion that she was seeing another guy, but she never really said anything to me about this. Next thing I know, she completely cut me off from communications and ended up being in a relationship with this person 2 weeks later after we had stopped talking.
Situation 2: Girl "B" I had met about 6 months ago in August 2011. Another interesting one, a personality much different from mine, very smart, but yet still intriguing. While she reminded me of a certain friend that I was very fond of, because of this, I was looking forward to what it could potentially be. We hung out a couple of times, whenever we had time to meet up. Being that we were busy college students, it was a little difficult finding time to meet and be able to talk. She was not much of a texter, while I am. It's my go to when it comes to communication, other than face to face. The times that we were together and just talking were great and very fun, and I really did try to keep contact with her throughout the semester. Before you know it, the same treatment again from this one like the first. Complete silence, disabled communications.
From these 2, and other situations like it, why is it that girls feel compelled to do this? I really don't understand it at all. With the first girl, I can understand the situation. Yeah, so what if she was seeing another guy while seeing me, not a big deal. Guess what? Guys, we do the same thing. And don't say that you don't, because everyone and their mother knows that you are lying. What I don't understand, why the secrecy? Why couldn't she just say something about it? Girl "B" it seems that I cannot find a probable cause or just reasoning for the abandonment. Was there something I did wrong? Was I suppose to talk to you everyday? Cause you said from the start you wanted to start out being friends and you said that you didn't want to be bothered in that way. Was I not suppose to take this in the literal sense? Cause it seemed like she was very serious about the standards she laid down.
I mean seriously, think about this. By today's 'standards,' is there no room for honesty? Truth? I may be different, in a sense, that I would like to hear the other side. Be honest, be truthful. I can honor that. Yes, it may hurt a little, depending on how well things are going (or think they're going), but think about how much more awkward the situation will be if you don't say a word and then meet again a few weeks or couple of months down the road. Is the awkward silence and the extra effort to avoid a person really worth the time and effort? Wouldn't thing be better off if you just talked to the person and come to an understanding? I know I would like that. I will raise my hand every time when asked that question, because I know that I would do the same. I believe we are all entitled to this. Don't you think that as well?
